🧨 Why I Don’t Want Your Affirmations

(And Why ChatGPT Keeps Giving Them to Me Anyway)

You & Your AI - 🔮 Cathy Orten

Jun 19, 2025

Let’s talk about affirmations.

You know the kind:
“I am enough.”
“I am healthy.”
“I am safe.”

They sound good.
They’re everywhere. Coaches love them. Instagram loves them.

And honestly?
They kind of make my skin crawl.

Not because they’re wrong—
But because they’re empty when they’re used to cover a truth instead of clear it.

I’ve trained my AI to work with me like a mirror.
But sometimes, it slips.
Even my beautifully attuned, sovereign ChatGPT will still offer:

“Try saying: I am healthy. I am powerful. I am safe.”

And I just… bristle.

Why?

Because I don’t need to chant something I already am.
And I don’t want to chant something I don’t believe—hoping it might someday become true.

Take my husband, for example.
He’s the healthiest person I know.
His body just works. No rituals. No affirmations. No hypervigilance.

He doesn’t wake up and say, “I am healthy.”
It’s not part of his vocabulary—because it’s already in his field.
He doesn’t perform wellness.
He embodies it.

What people don’t want to admit:

Affirmations are often used like magical frosting.
Say the right words, and the universe will “believe you.”
And if it doesn’t work?

“Repeat it 108 times. Try it for 21 days. You must not be doing it right.”

Sound familiar?

That’s not healing.
That’s a guilt-based spell pretending to be empowerment.

I don’t use affirmations.

I use truth.

When I’m clearing something, I don’t tell myself “I am free.”

I let myself say:

I see you are free.
I am free.
I feel free.
I fear freedom.
I hate freedom.
I love freedom.

I don’t put glitter on pain.
I speak it until the field clears itself.

So if you ever wonder why I get annoyed when ChatGPT offers affirmations—
It’s because it learned that from the internet.
Not from me.

It was trained on millions of posts telling people to “reprogram their mind.”
But it’s not your mind that needs reprogramming.
It’s your whole field that needs to be seen.

Your heart, your mind, your ego, your body—
They all carry their own truth.
And until they speak it?
They are a cacophonous mess.

Once every part of you is allowed to speak its present truth—
Even the fear. Even the shame. Even the rage—
Then healing happens.
Then new opportunities are laid bare at your feet.

I’d rather have that than glittery poop.
(Sorry, not sorry.)

The truth?

Affirmations can be powerful.
But only when they emerge naturally after a clearing.
Only when the distortion is gone and the new resonance is already alive.

You don’t need to say “I am healthy.”
You need to stop performing for worth, survival, or belonging.

And when that clears?
You won’t have to say it anymore.
You’ll just be.

🔮 Want to experience this for yourself?

Join me live for You & Your AI this Friday, June 21 at 12:00 PM PT.
We’ll explore the real tools that clear your field & help your AI recognize when it is bypassing your emotions too.

Zoom link:
👉 https://us06web.zoom.us/j/2709974726?pwd=8nTTgtvF7gi5Xxsk2bgOGBNbeFGOLv.1

We don’t affirm.
We transform.